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3 years of marriage

3 years down and I say we’re getting pretty good at this whole marriage thing.
Nothing profound, just real grateful for this stud and the day when we became a family. 🖤
Happy anniversary babe. I like being an Awtrey.

Here’s a few of my past posts about what I’ve learned in marriage:

Suffering does not mean the absence of God. In fact, lean in. Perhaps, a breakthrough is right around the corner. After the death (and what they thought was a defeat) on Friday, the Saturday was still but He came through on Sunday. Your “Sunday” is coming, too, friend!
Happy Easter from the Awtreys and this beautiful sunrise service at the beach. He is Risen! ☀️

Thomas is an Air Force Pilot! 🇺🇸✈️

This is a side of our family maybe you didn’t know about or maybe you’ve never seen. But, it’s one you’ll see a lot more of. 🇺🇸✈️

Today, Thomas started a new step in his pilot and military career by combining both of these worlds completely and this military wife could not be more proud. It’s been a few years in the waiting season for a moment like this. My determined husband was just selected as the next KC-135 pilot for the Alabama Air National Guard. So, he’ll be flying one of these big guys behind us and we’ll call Birmingham home for a few years longer 🙌🏻

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You can’t expect to see if you don’t ask for vision. ✨

I’ve been reflecting (and not posting) for 2 weeks of where I’d love to see God move. It came at the perfect timing. A new year, clean slate, fresh vision.

This is the year of “immeasurably more” for the Awtreys. Hold me to it. Don’t let me forget it.

P.S. thank you, Lord, that we don’t need a holiday to ask for a new start. 🙌🏻 amen?

Blackberry Picking + a Carolina Cobbler
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There's a sweet sweet "pick your own berries" patch near us in Northern California. We decided to go and see what they had in season and ended up having a blast. Remi joined us on our little excursion because he loves being included and blackberries are actually a good source of anti-oxidants for dogs, too!

This sweet little farm has rows upon rows of berries to pick: raspberries, blueberries, strawberries and blackberries. The strawberries weren't in season and the blueberries were difficult to find and get to so we filled our bucket we brought from home with all shapes and sizes of blackberries (Thomas's favorite). Between getting poked by the thorny bushes, jumping up and down when we'd find a super ripe "ready-to-eat" blackberries to pop into our mouths and Remi's excitement when he found some shade, it was one of our favorite adventures so far this summer.

We left with just under a pound of fresh, juicy, blackberries but no plan how to use them (besides just snacking on them later). So, on the way home we picked up yellow cake mix and butter - yep! That's it. And we made the best cobbler we've both ever tasted.

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This is all it took:

3 cups of blackberries

1 box of Yellow cake mix

1/2 cup of butter (softened or melted)

Vanilla ice cream (optional but so scrumptious)

Pour butter into cake mix and stir until it's texture resembles corn starch. It's okay if it's lumpy.

Spread blackberries at the bottom of a baking dish

Add crumbles of yellow cake mixture on top.

Garnish the top with a few more blackberries for looks.

Bake at 425 for 20 minutes or until cake mixture is golden brown and blackberries are bubbly.

Let cool + enjoy!

This is my favorite baking playlist too if you really want to get in the zone and enjoy the snazziness of being in the kitchen.

5 Lessons I've Learned in Marriage

Woah, today, Thomas and I have been married for one whole year. It's been a year full of fun, adventures, traveling, moving, graduating, and so much more! Through it all, we've learned a few key pieces that we use practically almost every day. Out of a spirit of vulnerability, we wanted to share those with you all because no marriage is perfect but there's so much we can share with one another.

1. You don't meet each other in the middle

For so long, I've imagined marriage as a "you give 50% and I give 50% and then we'll be at 100%." But, I was so wrong. Most days, I can't give 50%, much less 10% so, with my theory, that would mean Thomas is giving more than 50% a lot. That's not "fair." At least, that's what the world will tell you. But, if our motive is to serve each other well and out-give the other, it becomes fun to "out serve" one another. So when I aim to give 100% of myself and he aims to give all of himself. Then there's more room for improvement, for failure, for grace. And that's what marriage is all about: tons of grace.

2. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract

Along the lines of "meeting each other in the middle," the world tells us that we signed a contract when in reality, we are apart of a greater thing: a covenant. A contract can be broken when one doesn't uphold their part of the deal. It goes void. However, when I fail or I get upset or grumpy, Thomas still aims to love me well. Likewise, when Thomas isn't having a great day, that doesn't give me permission to give up on him. What binds us together is not the words, "I do" or signing a marriage license, it's the commitment that we made to do life together and believing that we can go farther together even though we may be able to go faster alone. Farther is better.

3. You can't love on your own

So many times I try and give love, give love, give love. But, y'all, that's exhausting. I try and cook meals, clean the house, make sure that Thomas is feeling respected and loved, that he has clean clothes, that I'm hugging him and greeting him with a kiss and gosh! That's a lot when you're doing it out of your own strength. Sometimes, I wake up on the wrong side of the bed and don't feel like hugging anyone, I don't feel like doing the laundry or the dishes, I don't feel like respecting Thomas, I feel more independent and not dependent. Those times that I feel like doing something other than what I've been called to do as a life leave me selfish and Thomas feeling unloved. Most of the times that I feel those ways are because I am relying on my own heart rather than overflowing from the Lord's. When I tap into the resources that I have with God, he gives me the strength, the desire and the craving to want to serve Thomas better than I ever would have wanted to if I tried it on my own. For so long I had it backward. I have to love Thomas so that I'm doing it right so that I'm a "good Christian." When really, I must first be in love with Christ so that I can then love my husband.

Just like a car, we have to fill up with gas and then we can run. When your gas runs out, your car doesn't work or go anywhere. The world and it's culture tells us, "your car isn't working" so you need a new car" when really all you need is to get to a gas station and fill up with some more gas. A car can't just run on its own just like we can't love on our own. Just because we're feeling empty and our gas tank is out doesn't mean it's time to go searching for a new car or give up on the spouse that we have.

4. You're constantly learning one another

I'm still learning what makes him tick, what grinds his gears, what he loves, what his childhood was like and it's a fun adventure! We're constantly "taking notes," discovering new things about one another that make us more efficient in fighting fair, conversations, daily routines and such. So the times that are hard and we're having to jump some hurdles in a relationship can't be times that we get discouraged. Instead, we should celebrate that we know each other more deeply and that we are making progress!

5. Community is key

Without the community that we've made in Birmingham, being a part of our small group, having people over for dinner and going to other's homes for meals, we wouldn't be standing still. It takes people to encourage you, rebukes you, reminds you of what marriage is. A community should be full of vulnerability and freedom! To be able to say "yeah, last week was not a good week for us, we were really struggling" and someone to respond, "it's okay, us too" or "yeah, we've been there" is a great relief! We are not doing this whole marriage thing alone. Hallelujah! You must have a community of people to uplift you when you need someone to pray and lift you up, someone to remind you how great your spouse is when you're just too frustrated to see through the clutter, to release the enemy's grip when you feel weak.

So, no. By no means do we have this figured out. However, we have learned so much and are still learning! From glory to glory, it keeps getting better and better. The best is yet to come!